This has turned out to be a necessary approach. Aiden has needed time to get used to his little sister. He's had to learn to share his toys, and more challenging, Mommy and Daddy's attention. We've done the best we can, but it's been difficult and there have been times that I thought they would never mesh. Aiden can be physical with Audrey, pushing her and pulling on her. He often tells me to put her down, so that I can hold him. I know this is all very normal, but it's still not easy.
Recently, I've seen a shift, especially in Aiden. I'm not sure if something happened, if he's growing up or if time has just started to do the trick but Aiden actually seems to want Audrey around. He asks her to come play with him. He brings her a blanket and covers her up. He asks if she needs her diaper changed (now if he'd learn to change it!). And one glorious day, when Audrey woke up from her nap and Andrew was working in the basement and I was sick and napping, Aiden went in and played with Audrey for 30 whole minutes! He put toys in her crib and their chatter woke me up. In fact, it was Aiden saying, "I love you Audrey," that made me open my eyes. And then of course they shed a few tears.